Aita For Refusing To Pay For My In Laws Dinner They Have Long Been

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aita for refusing to pay for my in laws dinner they have long been

I am now “the ahole” in my wife's family, but am I…? I feel justified, am I? My opinion: I don’t think anyone should ever invite themselves to stay at someone else’s home. You only stay if you are invited, and then if you stay, you bring gifts and pay for meals etc. The story: Over the course of our 30 year marriage we have hosted many family members at our house. Recently my wife’s cousin contacted her and said she would like to come out at visit the family.

My wife’s mother and sisters live nearby. (The three of them always bully my wife into getting their ways). My wife and her sisters work, whereas I just retired - so I’m elected to pick the cousin up at the airport. I’ve never met or seen pictures of this person, so I’m told to hold a sign like a chauffeur. On the way home the cousin said she was starving as asked if we could get something to eat. We stopped at a nearby restaurant and ordered food.

I ended up paying the bill and thought it was strange she didn’t offer to help, but ok, maybe she’ll contribute later. Every following breakfast, lunch, and dinner was paid for by me. Even at the family picnic where everyone was chipping in money, she didn’t contribute a thing. Her entire 4 night stay was free! I never even heard a Thank You. And I drove her to and from the airport and everywhere she wanted to go while she was here.

My husband and I have been together for 25 years, married for 23. I have never been good enough for his parents. On the day I met him, knowing that I had worked hard to be successful as a single mom and owned my own home, my FIL told me in so many words that I... We are now 59/60. I LOVE making Thanksgiving dinner. I do it well and I look forward to it all year long.

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Purchased the nonperishable favorites from a grocery store they don't have in their area. Had tools and supplies packed and ready to go. The day before we were set to leave, I told my husband I needed to go to the grocery store for an item that was out of stock when I went earlier in the... When he asked why I needed it, I was puzzled and told him I needed it to make Thanksgiving dinner. He LAUGHED and said, "You know that's not going to happen, right?

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