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Aita For Refusing To Pay For My In Laws Dinner Reddit

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My (37F) Husband (40M) and I are amateur foodies - we don't know anything about anything, but really enjoy good food and going new places. We have a lifestyle that allows us to eat out whenever we like, and live in an area with lots of good food and unique resturants. We also like to share our favorites, and so recently have begun inviting either my parents or his parents out with us. We take them out maybe once every 3-4 months (not including celebrations), and because we invite, we always pay. This isn't the only time we see our parents. A few months ago, my in laws invited us out to a resturant they liked near their house.

We hadn't ever been, and even though it wasn't a place we normally would have chosen, we figured it was their way of "joining the fun" and showing us something new like we had... After dinner, my MIL slid the bill over to my husband without looking at it. He looked surprised, but dinner wasn't expensive, so we paid it without saying anything. A few weeks later, my in laws invited us out again, to a moderately expensive place we had taken them once before, and did the same thing. Recently, while on a call with his Mom, my husband mentioned that I had gotten an award at work. His mother immediately suggested we all go out to a very fancy resturant nearby to celebrate.

I quietly asked if we were going to have to pay for it, and my husband stated glaring daggers at me. He ended the call quickly, and called me rude. I told him I didn't think we should have to pay every time his parents wanted to go to dinner, and that they were using my award (which really wasn't a big deal at... He said we could afford it and they couldn't (this is true), and I was an asshole for refusing to pay for them. Later, after he had spoken to his dad, he told me I had embarrassed his parents and made them feel like moochers. They want an apology, and to make up for it, he said we should just take them out to the fancy resturant they want.

No pretense of celebrating my award this time. AITA? I don't feel like it's wrong to expect not to pay when you're invited out. Because I know someone will ask: yes, in an attempt to resolve the fight with my husband, I suggested holding off on fancy resturant until their anniversary at the end of summer. They want to go now. Also, splitting the bill is apparently not an option and suggesting that was rude, too.

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