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aita for leaving my inlaws dinner after i found out that they didn t

A Redditor shared a story about a tense situation during her first Christmas dinner with her fiancé’s family. She has specific dietary needs due to psychological factors and asked her future mother-in-law (FMIL) to make a simple accommodation for her. FMIL refused and told her to bring her own dish, but the Redditor felt this was disrespectful for a guest. After arriving at the dinner and finding no accommodations made, she decided to leave, which led to her fiancé lashing out at her for being selfish. Now, her fiancé and FMIL are upset, and she’s questioning if she was in the wrong. Invite people to read the original story below.

I got invited to my fiance’s family christmas celebratory dinner. It’s my first christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. Can’t help it and it has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes. Before accepting their invite I let FMIL know that I wouldn’t be eating the traditional food at their celebration, and showed her a variety of dishes to choose from to accommodate me. She refused and told me to bring my own dish.

I said if I had to bring my own dish when I’m a guest then I better stay at home then. We went back and forth and I insisted I wouldn’t come if accommodations weren’t being made. I just thought it was a simple request and FMIL could’ve agreed if she really wanted me there. My fiance agreed that I shhould bring my own dish but I didn’t. I'm a newlywed, and my in-laws are visiting for Christmas, staying at our new house. Initially, they expressed interest in dining out for Christmas dinner, but I suggested preparing a home-cooked feast.

Surprisingly, they declined the offer. Here's where it gets interesting. I'm currently working as a server in town after recently being laid off from my corporate job. Luckily, the restaurant is closed on Christmas Eve and Christmas. However, my mother-in-law had different plans. She called my workplace without consulting me and requested that I be their server for their entire Christmas dinner.

I discovered this arrangement through my husband, learning that my Christmas "gift" would be a generous tip and takeout from my restaurant. This seems peculiar, especially since our restaurant isn't even open on Christmas Eve or Christmas, and I would be available to spend time with them on those days. They've scheduled this dinner the day before we close, making it their designated family celebration. I f26 went on a "family trip" with my inlaws 2 weeks ago. MIL always thought that I am a bit "ignorant" and "backward" and that just because I come from lower class family (compared to hers) that I have no "etiquette" After we arrived to the hotel, They arranged to visit a fancy restaurant for dinner, My husband avoid telling me and I learned it last minute after he had already got dressed.

I asked where he was going and he said he & family were going to eat out but I wasn't invited because his mom "assumed" that since I wouldn't be familiar with the food... I didn't argue I just let him go then I packed and took the first flight home. He freaked out and called many times and when he found out that I went home, he blew up snd called me ridiculous and irrational to do this. Even said that I acted in an ungrateful manner and embarrassed him infront of his family after he literally begged to have me go on the trip. We argued and he started giving md silent treatment after he came home. Moreover, his family are indirectly criticizing me on facebook about what I did.

Edit1 he didn't even mention what type of food they ordered. Edit2 the family didn't plan on having me come along but my husband, like he said "begged them" to invite me. This isn't just with me, my bil's girlfriend wasn't invited as well. Edit3 they paid for my expanses so I didn't want to act like I'm being needy/or something. <img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="alignnone wp-image-415113" src="https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg" alt="Source: Reddit/AITA/Pexels/ Tim Mossholder" width="800" height="420" srcset="https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg 1200w, https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg?resize=150,79 150w, https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg?resize=300,158 300w, https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg?resize=768,403 768w, https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg?resize=1024,538 1024w, https://twistedsifter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/canceling-christmas-with-in-laws-AITA.jpeg?resize=586,308 586w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" title="Their In Laws Turn The Holiday... After years of freeloading—from not paying for shared expenses at football games to grabbing drive-thru meals before Thanksgiving dinner—one person has finally had enough of their in-laws.

Tired of their entitled behavior, she’s considering canceling Christmas this year for her own sanity. My husband is amazing and everything about him makes me incredibly happy. They have always treated him poorly and less than and that really has always upset me.

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