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Aita For Telling My In Laws That I Don T Want To Be Their Server At

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aita for telling my in laws that i don t want to be their server at

I'm a newlywed, and my in-laws are visiting for Christmas, staying at our new house. Initially, they expressed interest in dining out for Christmas dinner, but I suggested preparing a home-cooked feast. Surprisingly, they declined the offer. Here's where it gets interesting. I'm currently working as a server in town after recently being laid off from my corporate job. Luckily, the restaurant is closed on Christmas Eve and Christmas.

However, my mother-in-law had different plans. She called my workplace without consulting me and requested that I be their server for their entire Christmas dinner. I discovered this arrangement through my husband, learning that my Christmas "gift" would be a generous tip and takeout from my restaurant. This seems peculiar, especially since our restaurant isn't even open on Christmas Eve or Christmas, and I would be available to spend time with them on those days. They've scheduled this dinner the day before we close, making it their designated family celebration. If there’s one thing many people dread about the holidays, it’s spending it with their in-laws.

Even if they get along most of the time, oftentimes they might have very different ideas of how to spend their given holiday, arguing about what food should be served, what time everyone should... Then there are those who find themselves angry that they are not spending the holidays with their in-laws, as they discover they weren’t invited to join in the family celebrations. Redditor TravelnPookie and her husband were looking forward to hosting their first Christmas as a married couple, with the original poster (OP)’s in-laws coming to stay with them. While the OP had an idea about Christmas dinner, her in-laws had other plans. My husband, the eldest of three, just turned 40. He invited his whole family: his mom, his younger brother (who came with his pregnant girlfriend), and his sister.

Everyone showed up except the sister. When I asked my mother-in-law why, she said, “She had plans with a friend.” I was shocked and replied, “Plans more important than her brother’s 40th birthday?” She looked awkward and mumbled something about... Later, I spoke privately with my brother-in-law’s girlfriend. She hesitated, then confided something I wasn’t supposed to know. The sister deliberately made plans that day to avoid the party because she was offended that I didn’t wish her four-year-old daughter a happy birthday in the family WhatsApp group. To be honest, I forgot.

I rarely write in the group and often forget to respond to messages. The girlfriend asked me not to tell anyone except my husband, because if the family found out I knew, they would immediately know she was the one who told me. Some context: My mother-in-law has always favored her daughter. She visits her often and babysits regularly. They live only 15 minutes apart. Meanwhile, we have had to insist, pay for her Uber, or drive an hour with our newborn just so she would see her grandson.

First off I don't think I was wrong which has infuriated my girlfriend. I (25) recently moved into my house. My girlfriend (27) and I had a little housewarming. Her family, my mother and a few of our friends. We were eating outdoors and the kids had their own table. My girlfriend's nephew (8) knocked over a jug of dilute.

I was at the table when it happened and it was clearly an accident. He was very polite and apologized. He was a little upset but I just laughed it off. His father came over and I was shocked at how much his father gave out to him. I felt really guilty for not stopping it. He ran over to the corner of the garden and started crying.

His father went back to the table and he said what happened and his wife said he deserved that, he should stay there a long time or something along those lines. There was almost a snicker from some of her family. Anyway I went over to the boy a couple of minutes later. I gave him a bar of chocolate. He was still crying. He said sorry again.

I gave him a high five and taught him this high five I used to do as a kid.

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