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Aita For Wanting To Spend Time With My Family On X Mas Eve And See My

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aita for wanting to spend time with my family on x mas eve and see my

So, here’s the situation: I (30M) am married to my wife (29F), and we have a 3-year-old daughter. This year, we were all set to spend Christmas Day with my wife’s family, as we’ve done in previous years. My wife’s parents (let’s call them Linda and Greg) host a big Christmas celebration every year, and it’s always been a bit chaotic, It’s mostly a bunch of extended family, loud conversations, and lots... Now, I love my wife’s family, but they aren’t the easiest to deal with. Linda, in particular, has a tendency to try and control things, and she’s always had a problem with my family—mainly because they aren’t as “formal” or as traditional as hers. In the past, there’s been tension about which side of the family we spend holidays with, but we’ve always managed to compromise.

Here’s where the problem started: A couple of weeks ago, I was talking to my mom about our Christmas plans. She was really excited to have us over for Christmas Eve dinner and wanted us to stay the night. I told my wife about it, and she seemed okay with it at first. But then, out of nowhere, Linda calls my wife and tells her that “she’s really disappointed” that we were planning to spend Christmas Eve with my family. She implied that it would cause a lot of tension, especially with other relatives, and that we “shouldn’t split the holiday.” My wife was kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place and ended up telling me that we had to choose between spending Christmas Eve with my family or going to Linda...

She said that her parents were “hurt” that we’d even consider spending time with my side of the family, and she didn’t want to cause any drama. A Reddit user shared their frustration about spending Christmas with their family, where they constantly face criticism about their personal and professional life. Tired of the judgment and emotional toll, they decided to skip the family gathering this year, but their family insists they’re being selfish and “ruining Christmas.” Read the full story below to understand the... I’m 28 years old, and every Christmas, my family gathers at my parents’ house to celebrate. Although I’ve always tried to enjoy the holidays, I end up feeling more and more uncomfortable each year. I’m the youngest of three siblings (I have two older brothers, one is 35 and the other is 32), and since I was a teenager, my parents and siblings have made comments about my...

My mom constantly criticizes me for not being married yet, even though I’ve explained that it’s not something I’m interested in right now. They also always make comments about my job, like saying I “should be looking for something more stable” or that I “shouldn’t keep doing what I do if it doesn’t make me happy.” This year, my older brother referred to my career as “something with no future” during dinner, and my mom joined in, saying it’s “time for me to grow up.” I felt really bad and... So, I(29m) and my wife(28f) have been together for 10 years, we have three children(3m,4f, 6f). Recently my mother called me saying that she and my father are going to have a Christmas dinner, but only for their immediate family. So only me, my siblings, and my parents are attending, no spouses or children.

I am most likely going to go(all my siblings agreed to go) since it has been a while since I spend some time just hanging out with my immediate family. I told my wife about it and how I plan on going, she seemed sad but agreed I could go. Today I was on the phone with my BIL(we’re good friends) and I told him I will be going to my parent’s house for Christmas alone. My BIL called me selfish and said, “that is why my sister was so sad this weekend”, I told him where I go for Christmas isn’t his business. I know that my wife might be a little lonely having Christmas alone, but I had the holidays with her last year and there will always be another Christmas next year. AITA?

*EDIT* to make it clear my son is 3 years old, daughters are 4 and 6 years old *EDIT* to give more context I leave in the morning on the 24th and come back the morning of the 26th. I was think of having a Christmas dinner with my wife and kids when I come back. Also, all the asshole comments are giving me a new perspective about the situation, I admit I might have been kinda selfish. *EDIT* To give further context my parents have a “no kids and spouses” rule for a family gathering. They would have invited my uncles, aunts, and cousins but couldn’t because of Covid.

*EDIT* To make it clear I don't dislike my wife and kids, I love my children and me and my wife have been best friends for twenty years. Me (28M) and my wife (26F) have been married for about two years. As the old stories go, my wife and mother have not always gotten along. In fact when I first got married my mother was so mean to my wife, I stopped talking to my family for about 6 months. Last year during Christmas my wife, mother, father, and I all got into a yelling match that ended up making a horrible Christmas. The issue really springs from my mother wanting us to be around on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

We are trying to split the holiday between my wife’s family and mine. So the plan was to go see my family the 20th-23rd of December, head home to have Christmas Eve and day just my wife and I, and then head over to see my wife’s... We thought this would be a great way to balance our time, and to be fair to each family by not choosing to see one family over the other on the holiday. One person from Reddit shared a situation where their Christmas plans collided with family traditions. After six years of celebrating the holiday exclusively with his wife’s family, the user proposed spending Christmas with just their small family or even visiting their own parents. However, his wife rejected the idea, and now tensions are rising, with her family upset over the suggestion.

Is this a reasonable request to start new traditions, or is the user being unfair? Read the full story below and decide for yourself. My (30M) wife (28F) comes from a very close-knit family. Every single Christmas, we spend the holidays with her parents, sister, and her sister’s family. It’s always the same—wake up at their house, open presents, big lunch, and an evening spent playing board games. Don’t get me wrong, I love her family, and the tradition is nice.

But here’s the issue: in the six years we’ve been married, we’ve never had a Christmas that’s just us or even one with my side of the family. My parents live across the country, and traveling to see them during the holidays is expensive, so we usually end up visiting them another time of year. This year, I suggested we do something different. I wanted to spend Christmas just the two of us and our daughter (5F) at home or even go to my parents’ for once. My wife immediately shut it down, saying Christmas is meant to be with her family, and it would break their hearts if we didn’t come. When I pressed the issue, she said I was being selfish for not valuing the traditions that are important to her.

I told her it feels like her family’s feelings always come first and that I want to start our own traditions, even if it’s just every other year. Hi! I'm 16F and my parents have been divorced since I was 8. I was the accident when they were both 18 and they got married to try and make it work. I knew even when I was a kid that they shouldn't be together so when they divorced, I wasn't surprised and was kind of relieved. They got split custody but they're only decent with each other when it comes to stuff I'm involved in.

Dad got remarried when I was 9 and had two girls since then and his wife is pregnant with the third, maybe 6 months? I don't keep track. Mom married when I was 10 and had one boy. I'm going to type how I explained it to my therapist when she asked me to define my family so you can understand my POV. My family is technically my mom, dad, stepmom and pop (step-dad) and my half-siblings. To me though, my safe place where I can drop all the technicalities is my pop and mom's house with my brother.

There's no expectations there other than to be myself. In dad's house it's different because I'm expected to be the older sibling/role model/third adult. Don't get me wrong, I'm not abused or anything like that but they often forget that I'm not 30. I'm still 16 and I mess up and I'm still learning. On Halloween I was staying with my mom and I had a matching costume with my brother. He wanted to be batman and I was poison ivy.

I was supposed to take him trick or treating in the neighborhood then get him back home and go to a party with my friends. My step-mom was supposed to be going trick or treating with my half-sisters but called my mom and asked her if they can tag along with my brother and I instead because she's feeling... I didn't want to ruin it for them so I agreed but that meant I had to shorten the time and houses a bit.

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