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Aita For Wanting To Leave My In Laws Family Event

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aita for wanting to leave my in laws family event

I (36M) have been married to my wife, Emily (34F), for five years. We have a wonderful son, Noah (5), who is paralyzed and requires a lot of care and attention. Our lives revolve around managing his needs while also trying to maintain some sense of normalcy in our family. Recently, Emily’s parents have hit a rough patch. They’re facing financial difficulties and have hinted at needing to move in with us. Two weeks ago, Emily brought up the idea of having them stay with us “for a little while” until they can get back on their feet.

I was taken aback because our home is already filled with the demands of caring for Noah, and I’m concerned about how adding two more adults to the mix will impact our family dynamics. I told Emily I was hesitant because her parents can be quite overbearing and don’t always respect our boundaries. She assured me it would only be for a couple of months, and they would help out with some of the household responsibilities. To compromise, I agreed to let them stay for one month, but I emphasized that we needed to keep our routines for Noah’s sake. Well, her parents moved in last weekend, and it’s been overwhelming. My husband’s parents asked if they could spend Christmas with us.

We said yes and that we are comfortable with 10 days, preferably December 20th through December 30th. I know flights can get expensive, they are flying in from out of state, so we said if they find better priced flights that we could find some wiggle room but they needed to... Well three weeks after we said to come for 10 days at Christmas, my FIL said they are coming for 16 days! I’m not happy. I thought 10 days was even a little long and originally suggested 7 but now they just told us they are staying 16! For context, I get along ok with my in laws.

My MIL has a mild case of histrionic personality disorder which makes things interesting and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells. She used to decorate my house with stuff she bought at the dollar store and Goodwill. I think she doesn’t like her own home and just thinks it’s fun to decorate mine. I don’t think she is trying to be disrespectful. One time she went through my night stand and put all my husband’s condoms in zip lock baggies. When I express how this is awkward and uncomfortable she says she was just trying to do a nice thing.

I have many stories like this that show a general lack of discretion or understanding even the most basic of boundaries like going through my nightstand. It was humiliating to think that my MIL saw our private and intimate husband and wife things. I just never would have thought I’d need to explain that you shouldn’t do that.

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